Tinder may now make itâ€™s way into the Urban Dictionary as a verb after its Tuesday night verbal diarrhoea on Twitter.
The dating app took to the social media site in full blown the-PR-team-might-be-drunk fashion to argue back against a week old Vanity Fair article which heavily criticised the appâ€™s effect on modern-day dating (in fact journalist Nancy Jo Sales went so far as to title her piece “…the Dating Apocalypse”). Harsh.
Tinderâ€™s slightly tardy response included some-40 tweets ranging from the corporate rebuttal:
To the slightly deranged:
And everything in between.
Why You Shouldnâ€™t “Do a Tinder” in the Face of Criticism
- Twitter is the place for many things from witty wisecracks to serious news links. It can even work for some press release distribution. But it is most definitely not the place to provide a professional, corporate response to a possible reputation risk issue. Mainly because people assume itâ€™s not a planned medium of communication and you will appear to be over-reacting even if it was planned (as many believe Tinderâ€™s was, given how long it took to respond after the article was published).
- Calling out a journalist on Twitter will not only get their back up, but it will set a precedence with every other media outlet on Twitter - which is pretty much every one of them - that you are fair game. Theyâ€™re a sort of pack animal, the media. If you offend/embarrass one, you may as well have rounded them all up in one big room and thrown eggs at them. You PR team will be working on the back foot to recover for a long time to come. Just like with your personal dirty laundry, donâ€™t publicly air it. Call them personally and talk it out, like civilised folk.
- A more effective way to get your side of the story across, while still utilising the power of the internet, is an open letter on your website. Replace the negative with positive stories, change the direction of the conversation. As with influencer marketing, it would mean more if your message was picked up and shared by people rather than being forced at everyone in a Twitter rant. It will also ensure that time and care has been taken to find the right tone and language, to create a sense of balance, calmness and a general like-us-weâ€™re-not-so-bad effect. All of which is nearly impossible to achieve in 140 characters.
I feel bad for Tinder in all of this. Not so much because theyâ€™ve made a mistake, because I donâ€™t think they have, in that I donâ€™t believe it was an impromptu exercise. They clearly planned it but they sorely underestimated their ability to fan the flames of a fire many of us would have missed completely had they not drawn our attention to it.
No, I feel bad for them because they genuinely didnâ€™t deserve the criticism.
I canâ€™t speak for how Tinder is used across the pond but here, in Ireland, I met my husband on Tinder.
As a dating app, itâ€™s been good to me.
As fellow PR professionals, I feel bad for them too. I can see how it might have seemed a good idea to put the message where your audience is. Short, bite-sized chunks. Show some personality with it. Defend your brand with passion. Communicate in a crisis and be open in your response.
All the stuff we tell brands to do, right?
Just donâ€™t do it 40 times in one night, ok.
Tinder has since admitted in a response to WIREDâ€™s article on their Tweetstorm that the PR team may have gone a tad overboard in passionate defence of their beloved company but the lesson will remain with the rest of us for years to come.
Step away from the keyboard. And breathe…